Cheating at the workplace: When the boss and the secretary become too close

It is a familiar cliché in relationships between men and women, and in gender dynamics at the workplace: the boss and his secretary are having an affair. Most people will probably confirm that this cliché does not arise without reason, as nearly everyone knows one or more cases from their own environment in which such affairs have come to light. Needless to say, infidelity at the workplace does not occur solely between a superior and his assistant, but also among other colleagues or even with strangers, for example on business trips. The opportunities are many. In this article, however, we would like to focus primarily on the relationship between a male superior and a female assistant, as our detectives in Hanover have encountered this particular constellation of cases on numerous occasions.

 

As the private investigators of Kurtz Detective Agency Hannover not only have extensive experience with investigations into infidelity in general, but also specifically with cheating at the workplace, we are your ideal contact in Hanover if you suspect your partner of adultery: +49 511 2028 0016.

Career goal “the boss’s wife”: When the secretary takes the wife’s place

In some cases, affairs between boss and assistant are not based solely on physical attraction. Constant proximity often leads to emotional bonds, and more than one “lady of the house” has been displaced by her husband’s secretary. An unpleasant divorce may follow, including disputes over maintenance and custody. The wife is left behind facing an uncertain future, while the secretary settles into the former marital home as the boss’s new partner. Particularly when there is a significant age gap between the new couple, or between “the new one” and the (ex-)wife, there is often quiet murmuring among staff, and family cohesion can suffer, as children frequently take sides.

 

Kurtz Investigations Hanover is well aware that the above description contains clichés, and we strongly advise against lumping together all individuals who fit a boss-secretary combination. However, we would not describe these circumstances if we had not encountered them so frequently in our professional practice as detectives in Hanover and Lower Saxony.

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Cheating at the workplace

Does the boss choose deliberately or is he seduced?

For betrayed wives, it is often of considerable importance to what extent intent can be assumed in the husband’s adultery. Did he deliberately hire the applicant because he felt sexually attracted to her and hoped for an affair, or did the mutual attraction develop gradually and unintentionally? Was it perhaps merely a one-off lapse? According to the experience of our Hanover detectives, one-off lapses in this constellation are rather rare; in most cases, the individuals involved are repeat offenders. Once such a lapse has occurred and the parties see each other daily, few manage to resist the urge to repeat it.

 

Kurtz Investigations Hannover has investigated several cases in which the exposed adulterer later admitted to having hired the assistant with ulterior motives. On one occasion, a target person even remarked smugly to the betrayed wife: “That’s just the way I am.” For most wives, such audacity is the final straw. Do not allow yourself to be treated as yesterday’s news; instruct Kurtz Private Detective Agency Hanover to verify your husband’s conduct: +49 511 2028 0016.